Men V/s Women : Part II

well people
i am back to it again. no matter how much i talk and believe in equality, by coincidence or by fate (whatever you believe in), i end up defending men as equal to women most of the times rather than the other way round.

i.e. i have met far too many feminists (not equalists mind you, females who think that they are better than men!! in every way) than male chauvinists. makes me wonder if i am in the wrong company or is the whole world this way!

not to long ago i was chatting (yes me a geek) with a friend of mine.(this convo ended about 15 mins ago). she believes , like many other women (or girls if you prefer) believe that they are more evolved mentally than men. and thats when the debate (not a fight mind you) started off (never ended though).

so the question is "Are women more developed mentally than men by the age of say 21".
her answer : yes, girls are better mentally than men.
my answer : depends on what you look at. yes girls are better than men , emotionally n intellectually. (now i regret saying intellectually because, knowledge of science can also be intellect at which , statistically men are better at).

and this is what i want to say which i couldnt earlier. (I love blogging, talking my way through with no-one stopping me :D!).

Yes, girls may be better than us guys when it comes to being emotionally strong (remember not crying isnt being emotionally strong.) they may also be better at handling new situations in a better way than men. and yes this gap is more evident in the early 20's. but this (Gap) does go down as we grow up , learn to handle situations that we havent faced earlier. it is just a life taking its time.

My reason for girls developing faster , emotionally , was simple. they are made to grow up in an environment which tells and treats them as unequals. this means that they are made to prove a point right from childhood. face more challenges than most men do before they turn 20 or think of going on their own. once they (us men) do decide to move on and be independent, the challenges are meaner and the realisation is no sweeter. n the process of development is no easier, hence the final product is no lesser.

But then she makes this statement "when someone keeps telling you that you are a worthless piece of shit all your life, you end up thinking that you are. but women didnt".

this is when i realised that , upto this point we are only talking about women who choose and strive to be independent. there are also those who do not. and those who do think that women are helpless without men (thankfully this trend is changing for the better by the generation). but what she wont agree was that there exist two kinds of people. that there might still be some who have given up while they are brainwashed from the childhood. which i believe isnt true. (and any comments on that are welcomed :D ).

well , like earlier i still do want to make a statement of comprimise.
yes women are mentally strong in the emotional department. that doesnt mean that they are better than men, it only means that they are different as far as this aspect goes. but men, i belive are more independent thinkers ,some of whom are even philosophical. and best thing is you can not generalise how all men think (you might generalise what we think about, but not how! thats what i mena by independent thinking).

so choose what part of your brain you love.
if it is the part which is responsible for emotion, chances are that you are a woman. (if you are a guy, say yes to the next one too ;) )
if it is the part that makes you to be wild, independent (may seem irresponsible at times) and free thinking , then probably you are a guy (and if you are a girl, well done! :) )

both of which are parts of the brain by the way, hence both are mental abilities.