Whats the right time?

This is for all the women out there. and few of the men too. Why the hell do people get married (or rather "married off" is a word most often used in case of women.) by the age of 21 or some even when they are younger. The legal age limit may be 18 for women and 21 for men. But that doesnt mean you should go and marry the next person you see after the legal limit. THINK A LITTLE.

I am not saying that every person gets married immediatley after his/her education. But seeing two of my classmates(a guy and a girl. but not to each other :p ) getting married in the last six months, I am beginning to have my doubts. Most parents want to 'marry off' thier children as soon as they can. They think it is a burden that they can no longer hold, any longer after thier child graduates. But why, the hell, cant they realise that raising a child for 21years is a good job in itself. and let them make thier own decisions from then on!!

Ok i do agree that parents are ready to feed thier male children to a longer period when compared to a female child. They want to see them get married in a hurry!Hence the misery!! But why dont people realise that they actually have a say in things that are happening to them. When i question a few of my friends as to why women act this way, they say it is mostly because of the pressure from the family. I ask them why;they ask me what other choice do they have than to go with the family? We cant live without them!!

well if u call, 'living the rest of your life taking blow after blow which shatters your self-confidence, your personal freedom, your independance (Social and Financial)', as the only frigging choice you have got, then i guess i have news for you. YOU DONT HAVE TO DO THAT. oh why on this god damned world would you do something as insanely stupid as this knowing fully and expecting all of the consequences!!! If you are forced to choose, choose to be independant. Choose to have a say in your own life. Choose to have a life that is not bonded. Choose to be yourself!!!

And if you are a guy, please read through these following lines. Marrying a woman will not help you settle down no matter whatever your parents say. it will only increase the responsibility on your shoulders. should you choose to "settle down" please be sure that u can, not only feed yourself, but also another person that is going to spend the rest of the life with you. And if you are not sure you can do that, but still wanna get married, lose some ego and let the woman be independant. the preceding statement goes for everyone. Let your woman be independant. We may not have recieved the right kind of signals from the preceding generations about how relationships work, but let us try to be different. let us try to bring the equality that we so crave for when it comes to other matters. There was this friend who was asking me, why do good people, doing many good deeds in many fields, do not understand women, and are horrible towards them, knowingly or unknowingly? the answer that we came up was ego. lose some of it and both of you can live without the bitching which can last a lifetime.

so what is the right time to marry you ask ? well it is the time when u feel that you can be by yourself no matter what the future can throw at you. It is when you feel that everything is falling into place, except for that one last hole that hasnt yet filled up. It is when u realise that you are ready. Not when you are told you are, But when YOU REALISE THAT YOU ARE!

Please Think about what i said a little. Its not something impulsive, but something that i think abt a lot...
P.S. I am not a feminist. I just believe in equality.