True Love??!!

This is what urban dictionary has to say about true love
This is what i liked best,
True Love : love without need of sex, beauty,anything physical or material, expecting nothing in return.

ok, so if that is true love, what actually is love ?. well i am not talking about a mothers love for a child, nor am i talking about a brothers love for a sister. I am talking about THE LOVE between two individuals who are apperant strangers, i.e. not have any relation between them!. Is not love meant to mean the same ? is it not wanting to be there for another person, despite anything?? then how come the word true love was coined in the first place, if just the word 'love' could suffice it all??

I gather this. Humanity's greed and stupidity have known no limits through out its history, and they are not showing any signs of being tamed. And, in this case, stupidity i guess was the sole reason that a whole new term had to be coined just to indicate how superficial the world has become. Calling the lust and attraction as love was and is still stupid, and then coining a new word to indicate the higher dimensions of human emotion of so called love, was even sillier!!


Why all this nonsense ?

Well!! Jo, a friend of mine suggested that i write up a piece about how true love rarely exists in todays world, with all those men and women falling for each other and then breaking up to only fall again for someone else quicker than earlier. so I wanted to talk about how true love is no more than a word today, but then my mind started wondering why was such a word coined in the first place, and hence all that might have bored you till now.

I guess the problem lies with the generation that does not really know what love means until they really feel it. Probably no one ever did know the real meaning, before hand.

But what I am trying to say is, the parameters (as i call them) , or features (as what many others call them) that most people look for in a lover are quite limited;If not everytime, Most often. and here i quote what many of men and women want from thier lovers.

P.S. :- the number is limited to the number of friends i possess.

What women are looking for in men ?
These are the most repeated qualities that women see for in a man.
~ understanding
~ broad mindedness
~ good sense of humour
~ caring
~ Physical features , as tall and handsome (only as add ons.)

What Men are looking for in women ?
These are just simple
Most men are just glad that there is someone who loves them. They dont look forward to other features that she might or might not have!! But here are a few that are often wanted but only rarely quoted
~Beautiful
~Faithful
~Humour
~Intelligence (hmm.. not many ask for that.)
~Broad minded (we'll talk about this later.)

I can say that girls fall easily for a guy who has most , if not all the qualities in a man!. Then they are deeply in love (?) with a guy who seems to understand them and cares about them. But slowly the negative features also turn out. Guys, natural flirts, are most often not satisfied with what we have. And on the other end of the spectrum, we tend to be over possessive of what we have, a seemingly good relation with a person that loves you. And these two are mostly the reasons why we have so many break ups in this era. Which simply irritates me.

So why call it love, when what we are actually doing is waiting for an oppurtunity to break up with your so called love on. Why call it love when all you know about the other person seems to be only a tiny percentage of what you should have known ? why call it just love, when there is no love!!

take it from the west you guys, call it dating. If you think dating results in sex, then please call it something else but not love. Get to know the other person inside out, or atleast until you are sure that the other person not only has what you love, but also does not have what you hate. Please be patient before announcing your love to the world. And hell, if or when you fail to go the distance with your so called love one, Also know that the world is not full of morons.

all that i have said above, results from what i have experienced and known from friends and friends of friends. so what i am talking about is applicable mostly to the young adults who are experimenting with their new found freedom in the world. People who want to experience it all like there is no tomorrow. But there is one, and there will be one till the end of your life. So I want to finish this off by quoting myself again.

"Dont love a person just because he/she has the qualities you love, but also take your time to be sure that he/she doesnt have those features that you hate"